Jobs, business networking tips for introverts

A reader once wrote to me saying that the whole idea of networking for business and job searches was just too much for him. He is shy naturally, and an introvert. Facing a crowded room of strangers and having to start a conversation overwhelmed him. Technology shows he's not alone.

Yet, Stark and Stewart noted that networking is nevertheless one of the most important business tools we have, and, they added, no matter how painful it may be, you "cannot outsource relationship-building." They said that there is hope for people who are painfully shy or who just feel overwhelmed in large, group settings and they gave many excellent tips, including:

Network one on one. You can avoid the big, crowded events by simply seeking out people you know, are referred to or connect with through Linkedin and other business-oriented social media. At that time set up a coffee, lunch or dinner date to network.

Introverts tend to be good listeners. Use your listening skills to build valuable relationships. People love to be heard and acknowledged. You can learn a lot and find ways to interact for mutual benefit.